The reason people have a hard time of extricating themselves from a narcissistic relationship is because it is hard to get past the fact that someone who used to be so wonderful and loving can turn so cold, hateful and lacking in remorse.
These people hang on because of the glimpses they get of the good side and hold out the hope that if they were only “good enough” or “better”, or unconditionally accepted and loved this person then they could get the nice and kind person back.
It can be really hard to get out of a relationship like this and if you have never been in one, it’s hard to know how.
If someone makes you feel worthless or crazy and you know they are not treating you with respect, or empathizing with you, that might be hard to change.
This can actually be the most hurtful part because it may make you feel like they never cared about you at all.
Moving on can be very hard because a lot of people feel that they need closure or apologies that they will never get from narcissistic people. When it’s all over, it’s like you never mattered: A classic case narcissist mostly uses people for their own gain and has very little emotional connection to those that are in their lives.
This has everything to do with the flaws of the narcissist and their inability to make real, meaningful connections with others.
What they have done to you is what they have done and will continue to do in all their relationships unless they recognize this within themselves and get help.
Yes, people can change, but past relationship patterns can raise a lot of red flags.The “Jekyll” part of the personality starts to overtake the “Hyde.” How did this person who used to be so wonderful and made such an effort to be with you all of the sudden turn out to be so opposite than what you thought?