Personally, at the end of this I like to say something along the lines of “…and I’m modest too! No, But Seriously: You drop the slightly cocky facade to be real: she seems like a cool person.
” A little self-aware humor goes a long way; you don’t take this too seriously. You wanted to say “hey” and let her know that you’d love to get to know her.
Much like dating in the real world, online dating presents an almost infinite number of ways to shoot yourself in the foot and kill your chances before you even get started.
Much like in the real world, first impressions count for everything; in online dating, women have even way of contacting someone: the wink, poke, nudge, smile, flirt function.
In theory, it is supposed to be a cute and flirty way to tell someone that you’re interested in them, get them to check out your profile and maybe send you a message. They expend time and energy waiting checking her activity dates, wondering if she got that message, if he should send a second one… Approaching women out in the world is like spear-fishing – one at a time.
In one paragraph, describe a little about you that makes special.
You know your way around a camera, you’re an excellent dancer, you play classical guitar, you have awesome tattoos, you make a killer chicken almondine.
It helps you to stand out from all the people who title their emails “Hi”, “Ur Hottt” or “I Like You.” Being unique works in your favor here and ups your chances of being deleted unread.
Why You’re Contacting Her: You aren’t going to mention anything about her physical appearance.
Or are you sending a lot of messages out into the void, never to be heard from again? Much like in real life, the only reaction that really infuriates is reaction.