You may realize that you have no claim legally or financially, but you would think there'd be an emotional attachment or bond between you and your lover.
In fact there usually isn't after the affair is over. Even though he has a deep feeling of love for you, he is able to process it in an unemotional way.
Simply because he talks in a negative way about his marriage doesn't mean that his obligations to his wife are any less important to him.
She is alone most of the time and spends it waiting: waiting for her married lover to call, to come meet her, to share some precious time together.
He's not a bad guy, he may be a wonderfully kind person, but he is also a practical one.
He knows that holding on to emotions that can only cause problems for his family is something he cannot and will not do. To safeguard yourself from too much emotional pain, you need to understand that he can only be a small part of your life and will never be more than that no matter how many promises are made.
Their life together includes friendships and a social network that is shared and comfortable for him. While he is more than willing to be your lover and to bring you gifts, he is not about to have you meet his friends and risk having his family find out about you.3. Planning to be together becomes a fascinating game and is thrilling to say the least.
No matter how nice a guy he is, you are a temporary diversion for him. Stealing hours from work or home to have sex is exciting, and you may mistake his libido-driven passion for undying love. The game soon becomes a chore for him, and romantic interludes are just one more thing he "has to do."4. Less than 5 percent of men leave their wives for the woman with whom they are having an affair.Understand the basics of exactly what you are getting into, and what your status is.