She also recommends getting out of the habit of texting during fights—en lieu of calling—to clear the air.
There's more room for miscommunication and misunderstandings via text, so being able to provide context and explain yourself either via video or a phone call is always preferable.
Or some people want to communicate multiple times a day.
Hopefully you've known this person before and you're not just starting out with the distance, so you have a greater sense of them, but you should figure out the best way to reach out to each other so you feel connected and have regular times to check in." With communicating, Sherman says, the most crucial thing to do at the outset of a long-distance relationship is to know what you need from your partner and to have the vulnerability to say so.
We have a book that we're reading together out-loud on the phone. And while this is important, it's also very important for your relationship that you spend time with other people. Try taking walks at the same time while you're on the phone with each other. And if you ask me, they don't seem very sustainable. Make sure you talk to your significant other about your hopes for the relationship. Enjoy friendships in your city, go to parties and dinners, work your butt off at a job you love, and embrace your life as it is. Ultimately, you, your partner, and your relationship will all benefit. After adamantly telling other people "Don't do it", my boyfriend added, "But you're worth it.
Paulette Sherman—a licensed psychologist with a specialty in romantic relationships, and author of the guided meditation companion Talking every single day might be overkill in a normal relationship, but when you're long-distance, lack of communication can prey on insecurities.
Some nights one person is way too tired for a phone call. But in these cases you don't have another option of watching a movie or doing work side by side. SO here are a few tips: 1) Be patient with each other and over-communicate. I want to spend time with you, but you'll really have to carry this conversation" is a better option than being blah or getting in a fight on the phone.