Then you stopped living with roommates, had to pay the rent — and maybe you realized then and there that finding a partner with a big, fat paycheck might be the answer after all. But after the vacations have been had, the gifts have been exchanged and the nest has been feathered, what you're left with — besides a bunch of stuff — is a real, live human being with no monetary value. We've all seen it: it's about pm on a Tuesday night and there's a cute woman crying her eyes out at the bar to an innocent bystander.
Healthy finances may make things comfortable, but they won't sustain you through personality conflicts, health scares, family issues and insecurities. It's your first time staying over his place, he's adorable and you're already mentally designing your wedding dress and naming your first born. Or maybe it's an adorable guy shelling peanuts vehemently at the end of an empty bar, going on and on while the bartender tries to find an out. Your heart is big and it's full and there are many, many stories tucked inside.
Try out the shy guy whose sense of humor you have to draw out.
This shouldn’t be difficult, it should be easy to be the best version of yourself around people with whom you spend time. There is a time and place for viewing the skeletons in your closet and unpacking your baggage. Your past has shaped who you are, it has shifted your paradigm and your perspective, but it is neither your present nor your future.