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I’m really proud of him for conveying such a tough message! Why are you hiding behind prayers, vague intentions, group hangouts, and TEXT MESSAGES? If you are clearly leading her on step up and ask her out, or stop leading her on.
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I was talking with a group of Christian men the other day and was given astonishing insight into the current dating scene. I’ve found myself wondering how do I encourage my brothers to GET OUT THERE and date. Group hangouts are great, but find time for one on one where your intentions are clear.
As I sat down with them to talk about life, I found something concerning: none of them were asking women out. Some had text-based relationships, but most of them were fearful of “messing up” or “ending up with the wrong one”. I’ve heard from Christian women that they either have said no to dating altogether (because the Christian guys don’t do any asking) or go on dates with men who aren’t Christians (because at least they are asking). I, too, was more of a prayer than a dater, until I had a number of older men sit me down and tell me to stop being afraid and take a girl to coffee. Real Christian men are needed to step up in this area. ” “What if I don’t like her after we date for a few weeks? Dating 101: Start by finding a girl who you think is interesting and attractive.
It is our prayer that these will be a help to those seeking godly marriages for their children.
One thing I’d like to point out before you read these questions is that we haven’t used this list in its entirety for all of the young men who have called on our daughters.
Well why wouldn't they - you're a great person right?!
One of our daughters and now-son-in-law (Ben and Tiffany) spent hours each evening by the fire discussing the questions. These are special times – you want special memories!
The Bible gives us many prescripts, but not as many processes.
However, he has been hesitant to make them available, since it is easy for people to want a formula for courtship.
His concern was that families may misunderstand the purpose for the questions and miss out on potentially wonderful matches for their daughters. They are intended to help both parties get to know one another on a deeper and more deliberate level by creating points of discussion.
So, the way our family chooses to live out these precepts is just that – our choice.